dedicated to healthy forms of communication and time spent being
'together' in an environment that doesn't have distractions including
TV, music, reading, other people, etc.
There are some proven methods to help keep your partner
from straying off with another:
Work hard on the lines of communication between you.
Take the time to understand one another. Good understanding makes good friends.
Be honest with each other about what you need and don't like.
Don't wait to be angry or until it's too late to tell your partner
what bothers you.
Take time to be alone together in a quiet private space, without distractions or friends.
Set aside time for talking, time for affection, and time for sex. These are different activities, especially for women. It is important that each receive their needed attention.
Go the library and read books on the area you wish your partner
to improve on. The best way to help someone improve is to improve
yourself. Also, it is important to remember that the vast majority
of people in relationships had only one example of how it works,
their parents. Most of us were never taught how to love, how to
make love, how to communicate, how to listen, and so forth. Reading
books on these topics not only helps improve our level of skill,
it also lets us know that we are not alone and that others have
overcome obstacles that may seem insurmountable to us at the outset.
It is always difficult to comprise a 'Top' list for
anything and this is no exception. The order of the reasons why
people have affairs can always be debated but this certainly does
include some of the most popular reasons. This list is based on
popular studies as well as some of our own Astro polls and questionnaires.
After reading these, click on the poll result link to read the results
of the most recent Top Reasons for Affairs Astropoll.
Top 7 Reasons Men Have Affairs
Opportunity - Meets someone new, she's irresistible, and he believes he wont get caught.
Unhappy – His partner is no longer motivated to please him, or just doesn't turn him on.
Self Esteem - Finds that he is more desirable to another woman and feels more appreciated.
More Sex - Accepts that his partner has different needs but he wants sex more often.
Variety - Satisfies his wish to have sex with different partners.
Partner Unavailable - He and his partner are apart on a regular basis or for an extended period of time.
Aging - Feels time running out and another partner helps to dispel that fear.
Top 7 Reasons Women Have Affairs
Opportunity - Meets someone new who satisfies a longing
Self-esteem - She finds a new partner who satisfies her
need to feel wonderful about herself, and her sexuality.
Loneliness - She doesn't have that special friendship
with her partner, or they aren’t alone together often enough.
She needs someone to really communicate with.
Personal Growth - Her needs have changed and she finds
a better match.
More Sex - Accepts that her partner has different needs
but she wants sex more often.
One Night Stand – Satisfies the need to try something
Fear of Aging - Feels less attractive and a new, possibly
younger partner makes her feel younger.